Pensees: Adoption or Abortion

Adoption or Abortion

Written October 2, 2000 in Taylors, SC the day after we heard about the possibility of adopting the child who would become our very own Patience Elayne.

Dear Child,

Yesterday, October 1, 2000, will forever remain in my memory if God permits what is potentially to happen. I met your birth mother.

You are a good threemonths into your earthly existence and your presence is not even noticeable by the shape of your mother’s body. Yet, a very important meeting was held yesterday for you. Our Sovereign and Only Wise God has determined in His perfect plan that a 15-year-old high school girl be your mother at this time. Your mother conceived you in sin. She allowed herself to get caught up in the immoral behavior of this world and, violating what she knew to be right and God’s moral law, she entered into a sexual relationship with another irresponsible teen and a pregnancy resulted. You were not planned, because when one sins consequences are never planned. You were conceived in sin. But you are not the only one. David, the Psalmist said of himself (and therefor all of us), “Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin my mother conceived me” (Psalm 51:5). No, Dear Child, you were not planned on the human level. But our Sovereign and Only Wise God planned you. He planned every detail of you.

Thousands of teenage girls in this state are conceiving in sin. Thousands are committing murder by abortion. OUr loving God so planned that you would be conceived in the womb of a child that, though she trampled on the law of God, cannot forget the love of God that was demonstrated through her own parents. You see, your birth mother was adopted. She has never met her birth mother, but she told her mother last week that she wanted her birth child to have the same kind of joyful relationship in adoption that she has had. She understands that the consequences of her own sin should not be charged to you by remaining your parent while she is still a child herself. She understands that God’s ideal for a child is that it be reared by two mature adults, a father and a mother, married, and yielded to God. And, though there will certainly be some bonding that takes place between her and the little baby in her womb, she has decided to relinquish you to a married couple that would love and cherish you even as she is loved and cherished by her adoptive parents.

Your birth mother was irresponsible and immoral, but now she is making some very good decisions. Hundreds of babies your age went to heaven this week, never to see the light of day, never to be cuddled by loving parents, never to sing, never to enjoy life; because not only were their mothers irresponsible and immoral. They were murderers. Yours is not.

Little one, we are not your parents, but we would like to be your parents. And it seems that your birth mother would like us to be your parents. Our Sovereign God has given you a 15-year-old child to be your mother for at least nine months. In the meantime, my wife and I will begin doing all the paperwork and the preparations of receiving you into our home as our child. We are preparing these things because of the conversations that we have had with your birth mother. If the adoption happens, your birth mother will no longer be your mother, but my wife will be your loving mother and I will be your loving father.

Until that longed-for day, I will pray for you as the “little one” that God has preserved from the ravages of our murderous times.. I will hope that this “little one” will, indeed, become my little one. But even if it doesn’t, my peace will not be disturbed because I know that you are God’s little one. I am not your father right now, but one day I might become your father through the miracle of provision and adoption. So, until then, I will simply sign off as

Your Praying Friend